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"27 and never had a boyfriend"
Dear Lynn,

I had never had a boyfriend even though I am nearly 27 then a lad I know asked me out other day and I said yes but I am really shy and never know what to say. Can you help. He said he will take things slowly.

 Anon, 26yr old female - Posted: 11/02/2008
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 25/02/08 15:14
Hello great to hear from you. It’s totally understandable that your going to be shy as this is all a new experience for you. This guy has asked you out because he likes you, so hopefully that has boosted your confidence a little. Just think, this guy has had to build up the courage to ask out someone he likes, so he would have felt the exact same way you do. Try not to stress yourself out about not knowing what to say, if you can’t think of anything to talk about, just ask him some questions about his likes and dislikes, films, music, hobbies etc. Just relax and go with the flow, you have nothing to worry about other than your own insecurities. He sounds like an understanding bloke and he has already said that he will take things slowly. Best of luck to you
Second Opinions..
KELLOU

Joined: 18th Apr '08
Posted: 18/04/08 18:25
Hey there i was pretty much in the same boat as you im 26 coming up 27 and i only started dating my 1st boyfriend 5 months ago. Im really shy so i know how you feel. we went bowling for our 1st date to break the ice so we just chit chatted while we were doing that then sat down to have a drink id relaxed a little by then and told him i was very shy he said he was to so dont worry to much relax enjoy and i hope it goes well for you
HULABALOO


Joined: 31st Jan '02
Posted: 15/04/08 09:03 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
When I was less courageous with dating I often suggested going to watch a movie for a first date. As well as the obvious "you don't have to talk to each other", which isn't quite the point, you also get just used to the person by sitting next to them. Also, if the film is either really good or really bad, it gives you plenty of opportunity to talk about it afterwards. Don't think that the first date has to be an epic marathon. Something nice and light is a good way to start, and if you feel comfortable with each other's company then you can start going out for a longer date. Sometimes even a lunch date is a great way to start, as the pressure seems to be way less and you don't have to spend all day worrying about it!
ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 26/02/08 11:02 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
You can't top Lynns advice... The only thing I can say is if your going to find it hard going for a drink or a meal, a situation that leaves plenty of time to talk, do something else untill you gain confidence with the man, go bowling or something that you both would enjoy and be able to spend time together without the one to one talk at first.. Good Luck
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