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"A bolt out of the blue"
Dear Lynn,

Hi Lynn, I recently became single after a 2.5 yr relationship. as we lived 5-6 hrs apart we only got to see each other every other weekend but we spoke every night and I thought it worked well for both us, giving her time to be with her friends etc etc. then last weekend I got home and she rang and said she was sorry but didnt love me anymore- completely outta the blue. I have asked her what has changed and she says she doesnt know just that she doesnt think she loves me. She calls me every night and says she misses me loads and that she will always love me no matter what, I'm so confused and hurting like crazy. I just want the pain to stop and no doubt some do gooder will say i'm being silly but I really ddont wanna live with her. she has been such a big part of my life for long I cant see any other way to stop the pain

 Anon, 34yr old male - Posted: 29/09/2007
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Posted: 18/10/07 15:30 | Last edited: 02/10/07 10:55
Hello, You're not being silly at all, as I can understand it must hurt, but it doesn't help that she keeps ringing and saying "She misses you", try to move on somehow, I know this is difficult, but when she next rings you tell her that it is making matters worse by her ringing you and saying she misses you. It also sounds to me like she doesn't know what to do at the moment either, else she wouldn’t be still calling you daily. Perhaps suggest meeting up and discussing matters face to face to see what the problem was as this may put a better closure on things or it may even work things out as im guessing it was a strain only seeing each other every other weekend, but I don’t think speaking over the phone is the way to go especially after seeing someone for over 2 and half years. Good luck and I hope you are feeling better soon!
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IRENE


Joined: 17th Sep '02
Posted: 28/11/07 23:52
Move on and find someone else, there's more and better fish still in the sea than ever came out of it.
SWEETLOVEUK


Joined: 28th Aug '02
Posted: 28/11/07 00:52
To Anon,
That woman sounds to me like she is keeping you danging in case she changes her mind and wants you back. move on and make a new life as she would have been a mistake to live with and she would have made you unhappy
Response from original poster.

Anon, 35 yr old male
Posted: 27/11/07 21:47
i can see where youre coming from but why still call me evry other night and tell me she loves me?
seems she wont let me go completely but doesnt want me full time?
DISGRACE


Joined: 23rd Aug '07
Posted: 05/11/07 14:07
she may well have found someone new that lives closer but cant bring herself to say?
MEL05


Joined: 17th Feb '07
Posted: 04/11/07 11:22
I was seeing someone whi lives 4 hours away. We only got together every 5/6 weeks and stayed the week together. On the last visit to his house a lady phoned and I answered the phone, it turned out to be the gilfriend he had been seeing for over a year, Neither of us knew about the other one. I also got him to admit that he has been seeing other women from the dating site and having sex - so could this be what is happening to you? living a distance apart makes it easy to have lots of relationships.
JARGON


Joined: 25th Sep '07
Posted: 28/10/07 22:39
Oh boy do I wish I had a magic wand! As I dont, all I can say is I feel for you.
LIVETHELIFE


Joined: 26th Oct '07
Posted: 28/10/07 20:02 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
im in a friendship with someone but it seems too one sided she keeps asking me to buy her things all the time if i try to get close to her she just gets ratty im really honest and caring and this is really undermining my confidence i suspect shes seeing someone else ?
MARKYMARK991


Joined: 22nd Sep '07
Posted: 27/10/07 17:34
Hey guy tell her or txt her this. It's from a poem called Breaking Up by -- Yevgeny Yevtushenko

And don't keep declaring, "I love you, I love you."
That little phrase leads a durable life --
when remembered again in some loveless hereafter,
it can sting like a hornet or stab like a knife.
SCARLETT14


Joined: 25th Oct '07
Posted: 26/10/07 16:58 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I know what you are going through I am going through the same thing but he won't talk me and its worse because just a few weeks ago he wanted to marry me. I have known him for 18 months. I think the worse thing is hoping he will be in contact but just not understanding. I know it hurts like crazy but don't let her get away. Its hard to find people you have chemistry with and love. Life is about people, they can bring you joy and purpose but also hurt. Just go and get her, dont wait then if she really doesn't want to go on, you just have to go through a kind of bereavement process. Keep yourself busy and occupied and look forward to a new relationship.
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