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"He met my kids, what went wrong ?"
Dear Lynn,

After 8yrs of putting my kids first, I finally found a soul mate. He got on well with my kids & my mum, I felt so comfortable with him I decided to let him stay overnight at my house so my kids could see we were together. Everything went well until the next day when he said he felt ill, went home & apart from telling me he now doesn't want a girlfriend he won't talk to me anymore. I'm confused as we had even planned xmas together, what went wrong ?

 Anon, 37yr old female - Posted: 30/11/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 20/12/07 13:44
Hello, thanks for the message. Firstly, I would like to say I'm very sorry about the way things have turned out; I’m sure you’re very confused at the moment.

I don't know why things have turned out as they have, I can only hazard a guess. It would appear to me, that the soul mate you thought you had found, didn’t like the reality of the family life. Unfortunately you cannot change the way he feels, all you can do, is try to put this behind you and move on. The way in which he has dealt with this situation is appalling, and if this is the level of maturity he shows when things get tough, you and your kids are better off without him. Don’t blame yourself for the way things have turned out as you have done nothing wrong. He could have confided in you as to what he was feeling after staying the night, but he chose to only think of his own feelings, and to hell with yours. You may never get the answers you’re looking for, so try and get things back to normal and enjoy Christmas with the people that love you. Good luck
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KLARA880


Joined: 26th Aug '06
Posted: 07/01/08 09:12
with the risk of sounding harsh,i was seeing a guy with a child,& he told me that 2 secs after we kissed which i fully understood & everything was fine until he came to my home ground then it all fell apart & i couldnt cope1 i personally dont want children but am willing to accept that people i meet now may have! if he had of given me a little time i wouldve come to accept his child but it was all or nothing then & there!
MISSB


Joined: 7th Jun '06
Posted: 06/01/08 15:43
Hmm Yes, I agree with the previous comment!
It's fine for some men to say that they "have no problems" seeing a single mum but in reality, some men cannot cope when they are not the sole focus of your attention and affection and it just becomes a battleground. I had a pretty similar experience myself and it seemed at the time that "my " guy had a very romanticised view of dating single mums!! Needless to say, he is a 44yr old bachelor who still lives at home with Mother !!!! Need I say more?
BOLD-BITCH68


Joined: 9th Sep '07
Posted: 20/12/07 21:56 2 out of 3 people found this comment helpful.
Some men can be pathetic and very weak best way never try and work out how a man thinks or behaves and by the sounds of it he was just another waste of space your better off without him pity when all was going well but at least you know not to waste your time on him hope you still enjoy your christmas,its better to be on your own and happy than be with someone and unhappy in my opinion good luck and dont give up all men aint weak and false
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