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Posted: 03/04/08 21:20 Hi. I would advise that you confront him once and for all with all the evidence/proof you think you have. If he continues to deny that he isn’t on a dating site, even though you can categorically prove that he is, you know that he can’t be trusted. As relationships need to be based on trust I don’t see the point in continuing the relationship as you will never know if you could trust him as he blatantly lies. Not sure what proof you have that he is on dating sites still but if you have seen his profile on a site, then you too must have been on there to have seen it, therefore it shouldn’t be one rule for you and another one for him. Hope it all sorts itself out. Best of luck

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ROBERTTREBOR Joined: 15th May '08

Posted: 21/07/08 09:23 just bump him its pretty obvious you will end up getting hurt, one guy should be allowed to mess with your fealings ,why ask him politly to leave other sites,just say get lost,he must be married.so jem ;get rid or you will get hurt ,he is a player.

SUGAR-BABE Joined: 14th Jul '08

Posted: 15/07/08 21:31 iam sorry but he's still on sites,, he's up 2 no good. ask yourself one thing. would you stay on a site if u meet that special some-one? keeping his options very much open. there again he could be very insecure indeed.. back to my first ans-- drop him. find someone else who is willing to make you feel good, not worrying ,and wondering.

RIVER79 Joined: 14th May '07

Posted: 09/07/08 18:38 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful. quite frankly guys on these sites once they get the taste for it this is only my point of view they buzz of it and once they get one wanting them more come its like waiting for a bus one never comes then they all come at once simple if ya dont trust him and ya know he is on these sites get out and leave him alone to his lonly life

ELLE9 Joined: 16th Sep '07

Posted: 08/06/08 17:12 I totally agree with leolady, this seems to have gone way off the original question and although I do sympathise with the ladies, not all the men are out to trap and cheat. I have two things to ask about the original question, Why are you still on the dating sites and what is the big issue, you are still only at the start of the relationship you are maybe making him feel he has to deny it. I for one have several male friends that I chat to on sites.... !!!!

LEOLADY Joined: 23rd Aug '02

Posted: 07/06/08 11:32 1 out of 2 people found this comment helpful. hasn't all this gone totally astray from the original 'problem' as far as I can see she said nothing about the man in question being dutch, or nigerian or posting falso photos or asking her for money

JEMSDELIGHT Joined: 10th May '08

Posted: 05/06/08 20:59 1 out of 2 people found this comment helpful. Hi Luckylady,after my experienced as you have seen, you have escaped with your dignity in tact, i was never asked for money, but after about 4 weeks chatting about howmuch he cared forme the time was getting nearer to him flying back to London (?) and us meeting and i felt the next step would be asking me for money, he had used his own money to invest in a new venture in Nigeria. I caught him out beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was also chatting to other women at the same time as he was me using exctly the same chat up line, and mailed him the proof, and he was gone.......I also think there is another one on the loose here,similar scenario so watch out

LUCKYLADY Joined: 5th Jun '08

Posted: 05/06/08 18:13 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful. Hi I had this very same experience with a supposedly handsome guy who said he was dutch (after i questioned his english language writing skills) He told me he had diamonds in Switzerland but needed money to get there - that is when i scarpered and pdq too.

JEMSDELIGHT Joined: 10th May '08

Posted: 02/06/08 18:14 3 out of 4 people found this comment helpful. Dear Anon,I was right the person involved he was a con man who we are all better off without, and thankfully the policing of people who run this site have banned him. I took this person to task a few times but he always came back with a plausible reply. I Have since caught him out and he's gone. These guys usually live in Nigeria, (working away from home they say) and are in special computer based rooms, they steal a handsome man's photo, use as their own then chat up innocent gulible females in dating sites, ( I saw thison a TV programme) and they eventually ask these ladies for money so they can fly into the uk to meet them. (They have been mugged orsomething similar they say). They have no intentions of doing so, but your money is gone for good. Ladies please be careful out there, there is a lot of them..And If he sounds too good to be true that this handsome fella fancies you and you wonder why, DON'T GO THERE xx

PURPLERAIN Joined: 30th May '08

Posted: 01/06/08 20:08 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful. hi angeleyes17,i have just started chatting to someone who sounds very familiar with what you and jemsdelight have said and of course anon,ok i think i'd better ditch him in the sea from a great height soon thanks

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