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"His ex came back"
Dear Lynn,

I met a man on here 4 months ago. We became an item and fell in love or so I thought! He had a ex who was always texting him and phoning him, he was doing the same to her. He asked me to marry him and we were planning our future together. Then he tells her about me and in a matter of hours she is texting and ringing him telling him to go back to her and he does. He is now saying he has deep love for her and doesn't want to be with me. What did i do wrong? I feel like I've made a complete fool of myself. Was he lying to me all the time. I've got so many questions that I need answered but don't know what to do. I'm hurting like hell.

 Anon, 46yr old female - Posted: 13/11/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 27/11/07 14:57
Hello, sorry to hear about your news but let me first say "YOU did nothing wrong". It does seem a little odd that whilst he was supposedly in a loving relationship with you, he was in contact with his ex. Maybe he had never really gotten over her, maybe it was that she plagued him until he went back, thing is you are never really going to know the truth. All you can do is put this behind you, and try to get on with your life and not waste anymore of your time on him. At least you found out what he was truly like after 4 months, it could have been worse, you could have married this guy. After a month or so things will not seem as bad as they are now. He will be the loser in the long run, because if the woman he left you for was an ex, their relationship couldn’t have been that great the first time round. Good luck with moving on.
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ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 21/02/08 09:08 | Last edited: 21/02/08 07:26 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
You did nothing wrong .... It happend to me just recently, he said a lot of nasty things about me, but didn't admit he was going back with his ex, I found out offf a friend of his!!! Maybe it was lifes circumstances that made him move on, maybe their relationship was going no where. He met you and was happy and content with his new life which prbably made her realise what she was loosing, or may be its a case of I don't want you but no one else can have you, what ever their reasons they decided to see if it could work with them. You have two choices wait and see if he returns or Just move on.... the latter being the preffered option and remember you did nothing its totally his loss.
HETH


Joined: 16th Aug '07
Posted: 20/02/08 10:45 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Yes Amerthyst is right! It happend to me just recently, and when he told me about going back to his ex he said all number of nasty things about me, we had arranged to meet for a night together but they next day he dropped the bomb ! Funny that she has now dropped him again and he is trying to get back with me, i think it's just an new internet game for boys!!! Boys and their toys girls, that what we all are no matter our age!!
C-PRINCESS


Joined: 28th Feb '07
Posted: 07/02/08 22:03 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
It happened to me to ,i was with this guy him telling me how much he loved me ,then the next week he told me was back with his ex,him explaining they have alot of history together and he loved her,he was simply on the rebound when he met me i think and i dont think who ever came along ,he would of always been in love with her,this sounds the same with your situation,i know the hurt you must be feeling but just think if you had got married,and she came back on the scene then,the hurt will go and you will meet someone who will truely love you and not some guy who still has feelings for an ex.goodluck.
BERNIE13
ONLINE


Joined: 22nd Nov '07
Posted: 29/11/07 19:53 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
very painful time for you and I have been there, it is awful and I thought I would never get over it but I am doing. Not rushing into anything and despite my serious concerns over a site like this have met some genuine people. good luck and take care.
AMERTHYST


Joined: 5th Feb '02
Posted: 28/11/07 14:19 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Name and shame the man. If he did it to you I bet he'll stay on here and try it on with someone else.
I met up with someone whom I had taken a shine to and thought it might go somewhere. I was so taken aback to find he had been dating someone for 3 years. If I had known that I would never have met up with him.
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