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"Hoping for that dream girl"
Dear Lynn,

I havent had a girlfriend from my home town in 7 years ive just been going tho life day by day i wonder when I'll find love I dont want to be on my own anymore i have a few good friends who help me tho but its not very often i get the feeling of feeling really loved do i try still go tho day by day and hope for the best that my dream girl will come aound.?

Anon, 27yr old male - Posted: 08/09/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1 . 2 . Next
Posted: 02/10/07 10:52
Hello, Have you tried going out in the evenings out of your home town, as you may find this will help, you need to be getting out and meeting new people in different areas. For all you know your 'Dream Girl' might be in the town next door and not on your doorstep! And a fresh start is never a bad thing... If I was you I would get a gang of friends together and plan on an evening or day out in the neighbouring town, and even if you don’t meet anyone at least you have had a fun time out and met new people and gone to new places. Let us know how you get on and good luck!
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THORSHAMMER


Joined: 24th Feb '08
Posted: 25/02/08 20:02 0 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
go to a gym, study something, start reading books, sosrt your job/carreer out (or get a new one, some how just do it !), eat healthier food.

that will make you feel better, which will also make you more attractive to women. If you drink regularly, your attractiveness to women will fade over time, and yuo need to make repairs to yourself.... mind and body.

be more psoitive, do more things, watch less tv.............generally, become more interesting and as fit as you reasonably can, and you will have much more chance of success.

you can say ''oh, that wont help. ive got big ears'' or a big nose, or one leg shorter than teh other, but thats just an excuse to give in and not make all the effort thats required to change this problem.

yes its hard work, but yu willl appreciate when you find yourself next to a fit bird.

all these confident blokes are only confident becauser they've made improvements to themselves and relaise taht its worked. If you saw them when tehy were unfit, and uninteresting, you wouldnt admore their luck.

they made tehir own luck with hard work and dedication --- do that --- dont be you ! be someone else. someone more positive.

honestly, have you ever seen a really ugly woman, who's really fit ??? i have, loads !!

if tehy look after themselves, even ugly women are atractive. well, it works the other way round, but more so !!
thats why there are so many fit guys aoround - women like it !!!!!!

I literally cant pull any women unless i spend a couple of months down the gym. and the longer i spend regularly attending a gym, the more women i pull.

believe me, above all else, change your physique. dont believe that you arent fat, or you are quite strong, or that you can disguise your unfitness. Just put the EFFORT in !!!!!

if you do, you will be amazed mate, i promise. Ive only just joined this site (as a trial, honest), but i went to teh gym a few times first, and will definitely carry on now i'm a memeber here.

if i dont, imagine how im gonna feel if i pull a fit one. i wouldnt have the nerve to meet her, man. enough said --- get down that gym, now !!! teh instructors will help you get used to it, and often, so will other guys in teh gym.

gyms are friendly places, so dont be worried. imagine if youd started 7 years ago, how fit would you be now ?? there's no rush to get fit, and just going there 3 times a week will make yo much fitter, even if you dont do much when you are there.

trust me.

good luck
HULABALOO


Joined: 31st Jan '02
Posted: 24/02/08 22:36 3 out of 3 people found this comment helpful.
I've found that if you really want a girlfriend, you have to put yourself out and really go for it.

I don't believe that if you stop looking it will find you - that simply doesn't work! I do believe however that once you start dating, it gives you new confidence and you'll find it a lot easier to meet new women. If you can summon up the courage to talk to people, and not take the occassional knockback to heart, you'd be amazed how successful it can be. Now if I can only listen to my own advice...
C-PRINCESS


Joined: 28th Feb '07
Posted: 22/02/08 13:11 | Last edited: 22/02/08 09:40 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I totally understand how you feel,i havent really found anyone who is close to me either who i would like to meet,but i have met guys who havent lived in my home town and the only reasons why we did not stay together was because we werent really suited,if two people are meant to be together why not meet someone out of town,there is always ways round everything.
ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 15/02/08 10:19 3 out of 3 people found this comment helpful.
They always say " You never find what your looking for, untll your not looking for it"
Your still young.... broaden you field of search, you don't have to be with someone from your home town and just go out to have fun and socialise. Don't expect to much from a night out and you'll be suprised what will happen...
BROGGIE


Joined: 15th Apr '02
Posted: 29/01/08 21:11
Ermmm...I forgot the last time I had a girl (dream or otherwise) from my 'own' town. It doesnt matter, but you need to understand that life isnt going to come to you...you have to go to it...No-one is going to bang on your door while you wait for your dream girl to arrive...Look further afield.


Ray.
PAUL10


Joined: 16th Jan '08
Posted: 16/01/08 22:24 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
keep your head held high you are worth it.
NINOBROWN200


Joined: 21st Sep '07
Posted: 14/01/08 17:07 0 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
KEEP ON TRYING AND PRAYING
DAMGUD1


Joined: 27th Dec '07
Posted: 30/12/07 12:45 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
i have to say i'm in a similar situation. i try to keep in mind that i may be too selective but equally i don't want to settle for second best either. i'll endorse what others have said.. if it ain't where you're looking, look somewhere else. see where you can compromise and remember you're not perfect either.
COSIMWORTHIT


Joined: 19th May '02
Posted: 04/10/07 09:00 5 out of 5 people found this comment helpful.
People say that all the time...it turns up when your not looking..well i havent looked for years and am still single.. my friends say i dont see whats in front of me when guys may or may not be looking so I just believe in the old adage whats for you wont go past you..so guess for some of us there just isnt anything waiting... am happy though so it doesnt worry me I hope you find what you need...try other cativities to distract you and first and foremost when you do meet any single ladies try to be their friend before you think relaitionship..too heavy too soon could scare them away... good luck..
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