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Dear Lynn,

How do you win back an ex that u walked out on 2 years ago and now realise you want him back, he says he doesn't love me anymore but he still cares about me, wen we meet he likes to cuddle me gives me all the signs that he still loves me then wen i go to kiss him he says its just cuddles but no kisssing, he also admitted that he would be jealous if I dated someone else, he said there might be a chance that he could fall back inlove with me but I hurt him so bad, any thoughts?

Anon, 53yr old female - Posted: 27/02/2008

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Posted: 30/04/08 00:28

Hi there. My advice would be for you to seriously think about why you left him in the first place. Sometimes people want things they can’t have which make the object in question far more appealing than it would be if it was given on a plate. If you are positive you want him back and that the reasons you left him in the first place are no longer an issue, you just need to give it time. Let him know how you feel and tell him you really want to give it another try. It’s up to him to decide when the time is right to give it another try but you have to realize that he may never want to. If things were that great why did you end them in the first place? Best of luck

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ROBUCK

Joined: 6th May '08

Posted: 06/05/08 18:18
Remember the good times you had with him, but remember that there must have been bad times also. As Lorenmate says, there is a reason why you finished it in the first place. I have just got back with an ex and it hs fizzled out again, because i forgot the reason why i left her ... ive remembered now, but its too late lol

MLI500

Joined: 28th Mar '08

Posted: 05/05/08 12:13
I have sort of been in both parts of this situation. The best thing, but often the hardest is just to let go. Cherish the good times of the past and move on.

CAPTAIN

Joined: 15th Feb '08

Posted: 01/05/08 21:08
my ex still gives me signs ! yesterday she gave me one saying KEEP OUT !

LORENMATE

Joined: 28th Apr '08

Posted: 30/04/08 22:48

2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.

I was in a similar situation. You need to answer yourself these question:
1) Do you really feel strongly for this bloke or do you just miss a close relationship
2) Why did you leave this guy in the first place : was he not compatible with you before
3) Will the reason you split up happen or be said again? ( will this just cause another argument and split?)
4) Can you hand on heart say you love him and you would put him above any one else in your life?

Good luck in whatever you decide to do

. Be true top yourself, you only live once make the most of it!

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