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Dear Lynn, i believe i have a syndrome that makes me attracted to men who are not available...all through my life, even in school, I have had this syndrome. I end up breaking my heart and getting upset because the other person has no intention of getting into anything and I feel that I must walk away. I am now so cynical with life that I have built a barrier round me and whenever I feel myself getting that syndrome again, I deliberately shut down and become distant. I am not looking for red hot passion, just someone who will be there if I am in need of comforting. please tell me what I can do to break this awful syndrome...the problem is sometimes I know the other person has feelings towards me and that makes it more painful to bear as with me it is a case of looking but not touching. It can get so painful I am almost suicidal at times. Can you help?

Anon, 64yr old female - Posted: 08/11/2007

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Posted: 04/02/08 00:51
Hello. You say you always go for men that are not available, do you think deep down, you dont actually want someone that is available incase you get hurt? If this is not the case, if your on a dating site, how about you do a search for single men in your area, then you have no fear of getting involved with someone that isnt actually available. Good luck!!

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C-PRINCESS

Joined: 28th Feb '07

Posted: 04/02/08 19:44
One day you will meet someone who is available,and who will be able to give you all the time you need,you have just been unlucky,meeting the wrong guys,before you get too involved why dont you get to know alot more about them,looking into there background and if there are any signs they going to be off limits,walk away before your feelings get involved.

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