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"It's me or the dog"
Dear Lynn,

I have a problem, I met someone on here 4 months ago we get on great.. alls well between us BUT he has a dog & I suffer with asthma & can't be around dogs. We cope most of the time as we only see each other a few hours every evening but such times as Xmas , he stayed for a few days so had to bring the dog , so i got I'lll & as my married daughter & grandsons came to & they suffer with asthma to we all ended up bad & theyve refused to come anymore when the dogs around & they are worried about me as I'm under the hospital with mine constantly playing up (I don't tell them why) I don't want to split with my boyfriend & he wouldn't part with the dog he's had it for 10 yrs but this cant go on & i dont want to loose seeing my family because of it , he's worried about it to , & we just dont know what to do ?

 Anon, 65yr old female - Posted: 04/01/2008
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 11/01/08 10:25
Hello. If you both feel you really want this relationship to work, there are ways around the problem IF you’re both willing to do whatever it takes

You could see each other in the evenings like you did before Christmas and on the occasions that your boyfriend wants to stay over at your house, ask someone else to look after the dog for the evening. You both may have friends or family that wouldn’t mind looking after it for one night every now and then or alternatively look in the local paper for a dog sitter. There are plenty of companies around now that will look after pets in the comfort of their own home. If that doesn’t work you could put the dog in a local boarding kennels, average cost is about £10 per day.

If your boyfriend is concerned about leaving the dog with strangers, he could take the dog to meet the staff at the kennels a couple of times a week until it gets to know them, before actually leaving it there for the night.

The main priority is your health, and if none of the above seems a viable option, i.e. your boyfriend refuses to ever leave the dog, then he is putting the dog’s feelings before the seriousness of your asthma. You would then be left with 2 options, continue seeing each other for a few hours in the evenings and see if the relationship can last like that or call it a day and put it down to experience. Just remember your health is the priority here, so you must put yourself before your boyfriend and his dog. Good luck with it, let us know how you get on.
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ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 15/02/08 10:19 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
When I first read the title to your question I thought...wow don't go there, If I was to meet someone it would be love me love my dogs, unless health was at risk.... Having read your question I understand bit more. Its not an easy problem, he has to understand this is not just a pet hate it is a real health problem and do all he can to solve it, but he can't just get rid of the dog, its been a faithful and trusting part of his life for 10 years. The dog won't be around for ever,. II'm guessing he has not family or friends he could leave the dog with while he is with you !!! He must be extra clean and remove traces of the dog. Maybe keep clothes at yours that don't go to the pets home. has for our trusted friend... a kennel in the garden... no its not cruel and the dog would love it, that way he gets to be with you and have the dog about.... there are lots of solutions to both sides please don't give up on somethig good for the sake of a rather larger problem than normal...
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