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"Meeting an online date for the first time"
Dear Lynn,

I need some of your valuable advice please.. I have been "chatting" to a guy since the end of november on the site he lives in the next town but works/lives in Spain too for the season.. Well anyway we have mailed each other every day sometimes 5/6 messages then it progressed to im messages sometimes talking for 4 hours at a time and now we email each other constantly on our private email addresses his always start hi sexy and ends loads of kisses and mine start hi baby/honey and ends the same .. I've really started to get feelings for this guy and tonight he says he is looking for flight details to come home for Easter so we can meet and where do I want to go with "us from here" ... My problem is I'm so scared I havent met anybody from a site before as I only joined in November a couple of weeks before chatting to him so how do I play this? What do I do? Please i really do like and fancy this guy so any advice you can offer me i will be so grateful

 Anon, 43yr old female - Posted: 06/03/2008
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 21/03/08 15:42
Hi there thanks for the message. Its understandable that you may be a bit scared about meeting a man you have never met but remember it’s not different meeting a guy off a dating site to meeting a man in a bar or club for e.g. Infact you have spoken to this person for months and know more about him that you would if you had just met someone out one night. You just need to be careful and make sure you are safe. Meet in a public area where there are lots of other people around, tell friends/family where it is your meeting and at what time. Tell them that you will text them at a certain time to let them know that you are OK. You could also give them some information you may have about this man, such as his mobile telephone number and email address etc. If you still don’t feel happy about meeting alone, maybe you could take someone with you even if it’s for the first hour or so until you feel comfortable enough to be left alone with him. If this guy likes you I’m sure he will understand. Hope the date goes well. Let us know how it goes. X
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LOVE1


Joined: 18th Apr '08
Posted: 26/04/08 17:01 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
life is about taking chances you loose or win,so play your cards well.Play safe,do not go to the bare, do not drink,an otherway stay alert all the time.You do not have to be on defensived state,just be your selve always.remember the same way you worry,he is worry too. He want to evaluated too.Talking on the phone, email,text massage,thise are all goog, but the true text is come face to face with the person. It is just like it is time to walk the talk. after along walk, eating, holding hand, smile, talk with eachother, you both will know if the chemistry is there, if you are realy connect. Then, where you take it from there? haven only knows. Dating is a serious affair, it is just like band who plays in a back alle room some where,and the time has come to see how well it play in public.so go for it my friend just stay above the watter. love1.
BILL1971


Joined: 20th Apr '08
Posted: 24/04/08 00:46 4 out of 4 people found this comment helpful.
personally i would have no problem with a women turning up for a first meet with a friend in tow, these days you cant be too careful and us men have to accept that its only right to be eyed with a certain level of suspicion especially when the only other contact has been via the internet
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