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"My girlfriend chucked me out"
Dear Lynn,

i admitted to cheating on my girlfriend a few weeks back so she chucked me out and is now getting an abortion. im so confused what to do because she still asks me round and we have slept together a few times since as well but when we are apart she hurls abuse at me and says she hates me. i want to be a family with her and our daughter but i just dont know what to do

 Anon, 28yr old male - Posted: 14/02/2008
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 28/02/08 23:54
Hello. It sounds as though your girlfriend is all over the place at the moment. She is pregnant so her hormones are erratic, but not only that, the person she loved has slept with someone else. One minute she will love you, the next minute she will hate you. The poor thing will be on an emotional rollercoaster and I feel very sorry for her right now. If you really want to be with her, your just going to have to ride this storm and understand why she is acting the way she is, putting her feelings before you own. If things get too much then maybe sit down and say to her that your sorry for what you did and that you take full responsibility for the problems that have now arisen but you cant go on living this way. She either needs to put it behind her and move on, or call it a day. However, if you really wanted to be a family why did you sleep with someone else while your girlfriend was pregnant? Doesn’t sound as though your ready for the family life!!
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BAMBOO1984

Joined: 9th Mar '08
Posted: 09/03/08 20:16
oh my god. why do blokes think they can get away with cheating. what have you done to deserve a second chance? my guess, nothing, you have proberbly just been harassing her. just move on, if she has any sense, she wont take you back. as for the baby, plenty of people i know are great single parents
SEXYDAN


Joined: 5th Mar '08
Posted: 06/03/08 09:31 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I FILL SORRY FOR HER IF I WAS HER I WOULD HAVE BEAT U WITH A SAUCEPAN AND I RECON YOU ARE JUST SAD I WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO MY GF
TAMPONMULTI


Joined: 8th Dec '06
Posted: 06/03/08 09:31 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
You should have thought about how you felt about her before you slept with someone else. Your an adult not a child, you know right form wrong.

In my opinion you don't deserve another chance, but honestly ask yourself if you really think you deserve a second chance, and using "because i love her" is not an excuse, it gets used all the time yet those that have used it still go on to cheat again. What can you seriously offer her? what can you seriously do to redeem yourself? without using empty promises because any promise you give her will be empty regardless of whether you mean it or not.

Her mind is all over the place, her hormones are kicking a fuss too so she is bound to be happy and loving one minute and evil ans hating the next, but to be honest, you deserve all the hate she can throw at you.

She now has a couple of very big disitions to make and i think you should leave her to make them.
C-PRINCESS


Joined: 28th Feb '07
Posted: 05/03/08 15:42 | Last edited: 05/03/08 13:34 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I feel sorry for your girlfriend too...you 28,not some stupid kid,why do you guys keep doing this,for a few moments of pleasure,guys like you dont deserve a 2nd chance and if your girlfriend does take you back,just think,you are one hell of a lucky guy,,and Dont mess up again! Yes..her mind will be all over the place like what Lynn and ELLE9 has pointed out,and her saying about getting an abortion could be just a away of getting back at you,all i say is give her time..its the least you can do..and start growing up.
ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 02/03/08 09:44 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Lynn is right, I feel sorry for her she must be in a mixed up state, still in love but hurt deeply by what you did. Give her some space to sort her emotions out, when she needed you, you went off and slept with someone else....She needs to see if she can can truely accept and live with what you did.
PHANTOM2


Joined: 30th May '07
Posted: 01/03/08 22:27 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
give it time, get some time out from her and think thing through, kids make it so much harder
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