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My partner is a bully and thinks that I don't realise it. He lives with me and I keep trying to get him to move out, but he always seems to wriggle his way back. How do I get rid of him for good.

Anon, 20yr old female - Posted: 09/02/2008

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Posted: 25/02/08 15:14
Hi. The only way you will be able to get rid of him, is to stop allowing him to wriggle back in. You are in control of your own life, and if you keep allowing him to bully you, you only really have yourself to blame. Good luck with it, and let us know how you get on

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ELLE9
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Joined: 16th Sep '07

Posted: 02/03/08 09:44	1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Things would only get worse if you carry on with him... You need to be strong and tell him to go. Then fill your time doing things and not thinking about him so that when he turns up you will find it so much easier to say go... good luck

C-PRINCESS

Joined: 28th Feb '07

Posted: 25/02/08 20:02	1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
He knows he can wriggle himself back because he knows you allow it time and time again,you mentioned he is a "bully" are you scared of him,and saying "no means no" to him would cause a stirr,if you really dont stop this now i cant see it changing,you could always take it further if it did get out of hand by mentioning it to the police but only if it got to that stage.goodluck x

THORSHAMMER

Joined: 24th Feb '08

Posted: 25/02/08 20:02

2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.

kick him out again, then vanish !

go to a mates or anywhere, for a couple of weeks, and just lock him out.

he will spend a couple of nights knocking the door, and maybe even talking through the letterbox if youre really lucky.

and while youre away, try to make some arrangements to do things when you get back. If you aint in, he aint worming round you, is he ? and the more you start to enjoy things without him there, the less chance he will have of talking you round if you do talk to him (your confidence around him will grow).

and if you are in, dont answer the door. By now, he knows youre often not in, so he will presume youre just out again.

you could just kick him out, then call the cops if he comes round after. naturally, thats a last resort but unless he's a complete looooney, it would put it to rest. If he is a looney, just you move away, and leave him there on his own -- somehow, do it. Life's too short. If you lose moeny, so be it - youve learned and survived.

you will wake up one day, and be 30yrs old . Do you wanna be looking at him by then ? If not, dont sell yourself cheap and dont waste your life.

i did a job in someones house a few weeks ago, and the guy was handing out his orders to his girlfriend, and the she looked quite sad about it. He was agressive and she was suffering, just to feed his immature need to dominate someone.

Don't be her !

If you need to plan this, plan it ! If it takes 6 months, do it ! start now ! Start planning, before you know it, you will be looking back on it all.

Would you have children with him ? Perhaps he will treat them as he treats you ? Perhaps worse !

the only way to be parted from him is to extend the amount of time that you are away from him, and reduce the amount of time you are with him. And just keep doing it.

just get yourself some kind of plan, kid !

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