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"Older women, younger men"
Dear Lynn,

What are your thoughts on older women dating younger men? I have personally dated older men 8-10 years older..now I'm in a relationship with a guy 12 yrs younger than me! Is this bound to end in disaster? Does it have to be just for fun/sex? Or can it go long term? Please help!!!

 Anon, 36yr old female - Posted: 12/09/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1 . 2 . 3 . Next
Posted: 20/12/07 13:42
Hello, there are plenty of very successful relationships where the age gap is greater than that between you and your man. Bigger age differences are still more common when the man is older, but there are now plenty of women, like you, who have attracted a younger lover. Unfortunately, no one can give you a cast-iron ‘yes’ that your relationship will work and last, but in the same instants no one could give you this even if you were both exactly the same age! Personally I think age is just a number, and it’s how he makes you feel not how old he is, or you for that matter! Good Luck
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DARKDUCKY


Joined: 17th Jan '07
Posted: 28/04/08 18:29
MY husband is 18 years older than me. Yes, we get strange looks sometimes. Especially when i call him Daddy in Asda, then tongue him to death!!!

BUT. Does everyone else really matter if you're happy?!?!

C-PRINCESS


Joined: 28th Feb '07
Posted: 22/04/08 12:57 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I have found alot of guys do just think of the older woman for just the"more experience"type of thing and once was told off a guy that we "well seasoned" not good enough for marriage but we will do for sex in so many words,lol!!! But there are guys out there who genuinely do like the older woman,and being attracted to the younger guy myself i think its just a number,but i think you can sense if a guy is just after one thing,and a guy who genuinely likes you no matter what the age gap is.
MICHAEL-ME1

Joined: 19th Mar '08
Posted: 28/03/08 08:42
I'm also looking for an older soulmate and BELiVE ME.. I'm not secretly searching for a mother figure. I'm just into older people (women) 'cause I'm not drawn to spoilt girls my age. I really hope I find my fair-haired, white skin soulmate soon !!! (and at least 2 years older than me would be just perfect I reckon)
ANGELCAKE


Joined: 27th Mar '08
Posted: 27/03/08 23:27 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
It's only a number and shouldn't make any difference....
CAPTAIN


Joined: 15th Feb '08
Posted: 27/03/08 09:23 1 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
I'm not sure .......? my ex wife was a year older than me !!
BLUBELL

Joined: 17th Mar '08
Posted: 25/03/08 19:04
age is just a number,if youre both happy why not lifes too short....ive just had a really good relationship with a 29 yr old and im 53...was sad when it ended and i knew deep down there wasnt a future in it but hey i got thruogh it and it livened me up...so now im hoping to meet someone younger again but maybe over 35 this time
PRECIOUS6


Joined: 1st Sep '07
Posted: 24/03/08 10:43
some people are more mature for their age some people less
If you gel thats all that matters good luck
LOOPY7

Joined: 14th Apr '07
Posted: 21/03/08 21:38
I have had relationships with 2 guys 11 an 10 years younger than me . I am an older Mum of an 18yr old lad and the fact that I like his music , keep up to date with current trends and have an open mind makes me attractive to younger men . Maybe the fact that I keep fit with regular work outs at the gym helps too ! This is for my health not their request but I can run circles round them - and they appreciate it ! You are as old as you feel and act !
HETH


Joined: 16th Aug '07
Posted: 15/03/08 02:35 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
i have been asked out by many younger men, and alway's refused them thiking there was too much of an age gap (16 yrs) and also too close to my eldest sons age...but i gave in to a guy that tried hard and did what he said, he talked the talk and the walked the walk...hooray for some of these gorgeous younger men, he ended it with me a couple of weeks ago, but its seems he cannot stay away from me for long, i am just going with the flow and enjoying his persuit of me, i love texting with him and look fwd to us meeting up, we have fun together and thats just perfect in my life right now, don't expect too much and then you won't get let down as much if it goes wrong, enjoy it for what it is!! xxx
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