Settledown or swinging?

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Posted: 09/10/07 12:28 Last edited: 02/10/07 13:43 Hello. You have stated that if you were in a loving relationship you still want to have fun, but why do you feel you couldn’t have fun with your partner. I think the perfect match for you would be to find yourself an Asian lady who is in the swinging scene, that way everyone is happy. Good luck with that.

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BOLD-BITCH68 Joined: 9th Sep '07

Posted: 05/11/07 23:29 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful. I think swinging can work for some people ,I also think that being honest is the best policy too and if that fails then it wasnt meant to be,its better to go about holding your head high whatever you are in life just be proud of it and if you cant be proud stop it.the thought of someone with my partner wouldnt turn me on but it wouldnt pay for us all to be the same.

BIGCEE Joined: 3rd Oct '07

Posted: 30/10/07 09:00 Was in swinging relationship for 11 years. We were most "together" loving couple anyone knew - the shared intimacy and lack of jealousy make for a much tighter relationship - oh and having a "hobby" in common helps - lol. I still swing with singles and other couples - all of which have very honest and careing solid partnerships and I have met some very lovely people. Some strange situations as well but isnt that life? The problem comes when ufind yourself single how exactly do you meet a new partner who hasnt done it and not seem like a pervert? I am seeing a new g/f at the moment - have been very honest with her and still see my "mates" - she is very understanding but doesnt know if she has the confidence to try herself, but most women will run a mile and that from somone (me) who just wants someone to love, care and cherish - without giving up my hobby. In the end its down to personality and trustworthyness - if your honest what have you got to hide - its the dishonesty that distroys most relationships - straight or swinging - Chris

RHUMBABA Joined: 2nd Jun '05

Posted: 20/10/07 11:41 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful. Try and search on the net. Whatever you want it's available out there nowadays, probably chats, sites offering meeting venues etc. All for swingers. I am sure if any swingers enjoy this site they will contact you even only to give you tips and help you out in any way they can. Good luck, I am pretty positive you might be able to find what you are looking for. There are couple out there who are happy and swinging! TC xx

Response from original poster. Anon, 33 yr old male

Posted: 20/10/07 09:35 Hi Guys, thankyou so much for your reply and thoughts on this matter. I have only just read your comments and since explaining my situation you all have made me feel at ease. I think i need to get my priorities right. Either continue with swinging or concentrate on settling down and not fooling around anymore. I wonder if their are any swingers on this site? Who could tell me how they feel about the first time their other halfs? wen with another partner? were they jealous?

MARKYMARK991 Joined: 22nd Sep '07

Posted: 12/10/07 10:24 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful. The fact that you are asking should I settledown or keep swinging tells me that you are not ready to settle down. you may meet someone that loves you and go along with the swinging thing because you want it. That my friend is a recipe for disaster. Don't even think about settling down until you ready.

HOLLYM Joined: 16th Mar '02

Posted: 09/10/07 21:15 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful. I would endorse the above advice. Make clear in your advertisement/profile exactly the type of relationship that you are looking for. Quite a number of people would be happy to have a secure relationship whilst enjoying the variety of sexual adventure. I would suggest that it is very important to have a strong & loving relationship for it to succeed fully, neither partner suffering from insecurities (emotional or sexual). It tends to be true that wherever more freedoms exist, more rules are necessary -defining boundaries, etc. -so it is important to discuss and agree these mutually. Good luck!

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