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"She has feelings for her ex"
Dear Lynn,

I've started a relationship with a lovely woman who is so caring and I think the world of her, we spent a great week together then she said that she still had feelings towards her ex who she broke up from early this year and has no intentions of getting back with him because of way he treated her, she has asked me to give her time to get her head round things how much time do I give her, her ex is now in a relationship with another woman

 Anon, 43yr old male - Posted: 19/09/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 01/11/07 15:08
Hello. Perhaps it would be for the best if this lady sorts out how she feels before entering any kind of relationship with you. She should have done this already, not seen you for a week the announce her feelings are elsewhere. I would suggest you sit down with her and tell her you are going to give her time to sort her head out, and for her to contact you once she knows what she wants. Dont put your life on hold and sit and wait for her. Carry on with your life as you cant sit and wait for someone else to decide what your future holds. You never know, it could come to the point where she contacts you but its your feelings that maybe else where. Good luck
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MARTIE

Joined: 8th Aug '07
Posted: 09/11/07 08:58
I have problems with my ex as we have a child together, so I have to keep talking to him, but I whis I didn't as he gets on my nerves alot. If you had asked me last christmas I would have got back with hime but only for my daughter. He was just a rebond relationship anyway, that i ended up have a baby out of. If you ex still talks about her ex as he treated her badly maybe she just needed someone to talk through how she is feeling and everything, I know I did eventhrough I was in a relationship.
BOLD-BITCH68


Joined: 9th Sep '07
Posted: 05/11/07 23:29 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
well i agree with all the above,most of us have got baggage but feelings for ex's thats a tricky one as an ex should be an ex or try and get the relationship up and running again,I cant understand why a woman would go back to an abusive relationship this day and age as theres no need for anyone to put up with that,if thats what she wants let her have her ex and put it down to just not meant to be good luck
TWITCH


Joined: 1st May '06
Posted: 03/11/07 09:42 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
i agree with the comments of elliemay57....... the relationship would go nowhere, dont ever be second best, it wont work
ELLIEMAY57


Joined: 27th Jun '07
Posted: 02/11/07 12:25 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I honestly think she's trying to let you dowb gently here. To blatantly announce she still has feelings for her ex (who apparently treated her so badly she doesn't want him back) just isn't normal behaviour unless there's a hidden message in it. Generally, if a woman still had feelings for an ex she'd want him back -irrespective of how bady he'd treated her, although she'd be unable to stop herself from constantly mentioning him. Sorry, but there's too much baggage with this lady. Move on and find someone who can be totally yours.
NICEGUY49

Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 02/11/07 09:01
It is a no I think but she do not want to heart your feelings. Look elsewhere. Good luck.
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