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"She has sugar daddies.."
Dear Lynn,

I have been seeing this girl now since may, she works as a lapdancer which i have no problems with, however i just found out that she has several sugar daddies who take her shopping and to fancy resturants ect, sometimes she even stays the nite at hotels with them, although she says sex is rarly involved, i really do love her, but this is driving me mad with jealously and rage, she says she was doing this before i met her and this older guys mean nothing but it's me she loves, i feel like giving her a choice, but on the other hand dont want to lose her, it kills me when she stays out all night as i never know where she is and i get sick with worry, should i cut mu losses and walk or stay and be happy with what i have brad

Anon, 30yr old male - Posted: 08/09/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 02/10/07 10:53
Hello, You really need to sit down and tell her how you feel, as you may find she will curb the meeting up with guys and stick to just the lap dancing, and if she doesn't then at least you know where you stand. And if that is the case then I would reconsider your relationship with her, as she is obviously not right for you as she is upsetting you with what she is doing. And I know she was doing this before you met her but if she is not willing to make sacrifices for the one she says she loves then she isn’t right for you, as a relationship is all about making each other happy, and enjoying time with each other, not sitting in worrying where she is, and if she is safe. I know some people wouldn’t mind what she is doing, but if you do mind then tell her, as this is not doing you any good! Good luck!
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DUSKY


Joined: 18th Oct '06
Posted: 06/11/07 22:56 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
I truly think that you made the best decision in walking away honey. As the longer you'd have stayed in this 'destructive' type of relationship, then the more hurt you would have been when it finally ended in the long term...
Not only that, but it would have left you feeling emotionally scared, and also would have slowly sapped at your confidence in yourself, thus possibly preventing you from finding a good honest long lasting relationship in the future with someone whom truly loves you, and whom would never use you for a 'free meal ticket' so to speak.
I know how hard (from my own personal experience) it can be to break off from someone whom you have deep feelings for, only to find out that they never really had any in return for you, and how it hurts like hell...
But you did the right thing in walking away now, and truly now my friend, you do slowly get over it, and slowly build your self confidence and self worth back up too, it does take time, but it will happen. So take comfort in the knowledge that you will survive this, and will be much better off without her. You may not be able to see that right now, but given time and healing you will see it eventually.
I wish you every happiness in the world, and that one day you will find the right girl for you whom is truly worthy of your love, and whom will love you as much equally back in return.
Take care now. *hugs* Stefi
BOLD-BITCH68


Joined: 9th Sep '07
Posted: 05/11/07 23:29 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Well if you aint got mug tattooed on your forehead she would be history ,how can you love being with someone who treats you like a joke wake up and have a 1 on 1 or if you really like sharing your woman get involved in swinging but to be honest if your the jelous type I cant see swinging helping,leave her to use the other men your better off without her in my opinion
JUST-JJ


Joined: 29th Aug '07
Posted: 10/10/07 08:49 1 out of 5 people found this comment helpful.
It's her life, her choice, if you don't like it ...walk
Response from original poster.

Anon, 30 yr old male
Posted: 09/10/07 10:28
thanks to everyone who replied to my promblem, after sitting down and trying to talk to her it was like talking to a brick wall,.the upshot was basicly if i didn't let her live her life and do what she wants whaen she wants then it's over, so with a heavy hert i have ended it, i've since discovered that she never loved me at all. this has come from her best friend whop was shocked at the way she had traeted me, she was just using me for somewhere free to live, and to think i loved her,,,, well thanx again guys, guess it's bk top being single again..
DREAMQUEST

Joined: 8th Apr '02
Posted: 07/10/07 10:48
I was in a relationship like that and it took me three months of hell to get rid of it. After I dumped her I found out that it had cost me a lot of money with her using my Credit Cards without my knowledge.

My advice ... dump her quickly before you get caught as well as everyone above me is correct, all she loves is MONEY, and I think the only way of getting that is with sex.
MISSJACK


Joined: 24th May '02
Posted: 03/10/07 20:48 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
dump her.
BUTTERFLY77


Joined: 29th Oct '02
Posted: 03/10/07 17:03 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
The only thing she's in love with is the money that these men spend on her.....find yourself another girl who is only interested in YOU!!!!
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