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"She needs time apart.."
Dear Lynn,

Hi I have been wth my girlfreind for two years. We have a son together who is coming up to the age of 1. We had an arguement last week and I moved out. I want her back so much and want to give her everything but she says that she is fine on her own and she just needs some time apart for a while. But she doesnt know how long and ontop of all that a few days after we split I have been diagnosed with bowel cancer can you please help me how I can get back the only women that will ever mean the world to me.

 Anon, 20yr old male - Posted: 19/12/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 07/01/08 09:14
Hi there. This is only my opinion, but I think you should put things in priority. You may think your priority is getting your girlfriend back, but infact the top priority is you. Concentrate on getting yourself well and whilst you’re doing that, you will be giving her the time on her own that she is asking for. Sometimes the more we pursue people the more they want to run away which could do more damage than good. Good luck and best wishes.
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C-PRINCESS


Joined: 28th Feb '07
Posted: 20/02/08 10:45 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
I am really sorry to hear what has happened,looking at your age you seem to of set up home with a young family at a very young age yourself,you never mentioned if this was one of many arguements that has taken place or something that had blown up at that particular time,but it must of been something for you to get up and leave,i can imagine you are feeling low and just want the girl you want to be around there for you and to give you the love and support that is needed,speak to her ,tell her what has happened,but also you dont want to move back in with her if its just her letting you out of pity,hope it all works out for you and wish you a speedy recovering.
ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 15/02/08 10:19 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Firstly... Your Ill and so long has you don't hide the fact...carry on life has normal. Give your partner time, you had an argument that caused you to leave, not the most mature thing to do, and then the bomb shell, which I'm assuming you had started to investigate before the argument which may have caused the friction between you to start with. In which case she may ust be scared and not know how to cope, so the easiest way is to cut you out.....Talk to her and tell her how you feel and try to find out how she is truely feeling,. Then concentrate on your health and your son......
LUCIA3


Joined: 14th Aug '07
Posted: 08/01/08 16:31 1 out of 4 people found this comment helpful.
whilst i sympathise with your illness - why are you on a dating site ?
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