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"She was hot, then went cold"
Dear Lynn,

Hello Lynn, about a month ago now I got chatting to a woman on this site and we got on very well. At first we were only conversing on here but then she asked for my number and she started texting me. Then two weeks down the line she started to call me but I couldn't answer because I was at work. She said I was avoiding her and didn't seem real, so last Friday after work I called her and we chatted and hit it off and she even booked a flight to come and see me on the 14 December (she was living on an island). Then Saturday and Sunday we spent all day talking to each other and it got really serious, I was even considering moving to go and live with her. Monday came and we text all day no probs, but on Tuesday she started being quite awkward and it seemed like the girl who was all over me like a rash a few days ago was now being evasive and I was doing the chasing to keep a dialogue going. On Wednesday I tried to be serious with her and she accused me of coming on weird and clingy and I started to wonder if this had a future. I spoke to her on the night before I got home and she was fine but then I logged on here and she had sent me a message saying that she was coming over with her mum (we had arranged to meet on our own) and instead of being for the weekend it would only be for the Sunday. I replied saying I was a little uncomfortable with that because I'm quite shy around people I don't know, especially women, so to have to meet her and her mum and try and have a date of sorts with her mother in tow was a bit much for me so I told her that. Thursday I didn't text her because I was fed up of doing all the chasing and her being cold with me all the time, so I decided that it was time to see if she was willing to put the effort in to make it work. I heard nothing all day and when I got home she had left me a message but I couldn't read it because she has deleted her profile. Did I come across too strong or am I right in thinking she is the type who chases hard but once she has it she's no longer interested?

Anon, 24yr old male - Posted: 06/12/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 01/02/08 17:31
Hi. Things do seem to have moved a bit quickly as you were talking about moving in with her even though you had only been talking for a couple of weeks and have never even met. If you think about it, you were willing to move in with someone that you later say yourself, were shy of meeting! You told her that you didn’t really want to meet her mother as you were shy, but did you think that she may have been a bit wary of meeting a man she has never met? It could be that she hadn’t blown cold on you, she was just being careful. She said that you were all weird and clingy; could this have been the case looking back? Do you think you come on a bit strong? Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be. Try to learn from this experience and put it behind you.
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C-PRINCESS


Joined: 28th Feb '07
Posted: 01/02/08 18:43
I dont think you did nothing wrong at all or was to blame for anything in this case,this woman doesnt not sound genuine whatsoever,there are alot of people on these dating sites that play mind games and just mess people about,plus no honest and genuine woman would just invite their mother like that to come along,without asking first if they were to,i think you are well out of it,and it wouldnt surprise me if she is making a move on someone else with some sly intentions up her sleeve.
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