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"Should I fight to win her back?"
Dear Lynn,

I have recently broke up with my girlfriend I have been seeing for 3 years. I really love her, I wanted to get back with her but she's just messing me around.She keeps saying I should fight for her back and grovel. Should I move on or keep trying?

 Anon, 18yr old male - Posted: 04/10/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1 . 2 . 3 . Next
Posted: 19/11/07 12:43 | Last edited: 19/11/07 12:42
Hello, If you want to be with her then that’s fine, but please don’t grovel and fight for her back, as it does sound to me like she is messing you around. What is she doing to prove she cares for you ? You're only 18 and you have years ahead of you to fall in love and settle down, go out and have some fun with your friends, don’t go chasing after someone who is messing you around, at your age you should be concentrating on going out being with your friends as you will find them important in years to come, and I'm talking from past experience. Good luck!
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SIENNA
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Joined: 8th Feb '08
Posted: 17/04/08 18:10
you ,I feel my friend are in love with the thought of being in love, stand back, remeber your self respect here and release these negative energy patterns inhibiting your thoughts and emotions, just let go you will fly.........
LITTY2260


Joined: 4th Mar '08
Posted: 17/04/08 14:55 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
you should not grovel, she is playing mind games with you.
walk away, let her come running back
HULABALOO


Joined: 31st Jan '02
Posted: 10/04/08 11:19 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Maybe she didn't quite word things right, and wants you to show her that you care about her a lot. Ask her if that is what she wanted, just reassurance that you are not taking her for granted. I do see that you're only 18 and have been dating her for three years. I may get shot down in flames for this but it could be that you both are not ready for a serious adult relationship yet, in which case you should just go out there, meet new people and have some fun while you're young. Don't try and grow up too fast, there's plenty of time to be old when you're older!
TALLDARK

Joined: 5th Apr '08
Posted: 08/04/08 23:29
Never lovea person that sees you as an option
JAMIE2


Joined: 5th Mar '08
Posted: 08/04/08 23:29 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
my ex i loved her she love me all she wanted i sex every night i was going to sleep she shags me yeah fine i enjoyed it she tool all my money both bank account i said ok £650 she took it all but she iv got nothink im peed off
BUTTERFLY3


Joined: 1st Apr '08
Posted: 07/04/08 17:39
What girl doesn't need to want to be treated like a princess! Clearly she needs re-assurance you really want her. You can write her a poem or send texts..it's about showing you love her more than grovelling and fighting...just girls have poor communication skills when wanting to be right!
HURTEDGHOST

Joined: 25th Mar '08
Posted: 25/03/08 16:12
yep true. i recently broke out after two years and the worst thing is trying to go back and begging. no person is worth tears...or at least they dnt diserve u showing that. it's kinda difficult to move on, i'm still struggling myself but it's the only thing to do realy.
PRECIOUS6


Joined: 1st Sep '07
Posted: 24/03/08 10:43 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Right now you are hurting very much and will find it difficult to move on
Time is a great healer..you just need to keep yourself busy..find new things to do,different places to go,so as it does'nt remind you of her.
No one should have to grovel to keep some one..thats not true love. Good Luck
Response from original poster.

Anon, 19 yr old male
Posted: 23/03/08 21:55
hi ya, funny i recently split up with my girlfriend,which i had been with for 3 years. she wasmessing me around and it ended, then she told me to fight for her, bein a fool i did. but she threw it all back in my face. i struggle sum days even nw 2 resist goin 2 see her cauz i love her that much. but the girl that you love and the girl she has become is a completly different person,go out with you mates, u will find some one mate, but just av fun. thts wht im doin now, some days i feel lonely and look at the past but most days im avin a right laugh.
love the life you live, live the life you love
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