What happened to the widower?

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Posted: 09/04/08 12:19 Hi there. You say you only text him yesterday so maybe he will contact you later on today. It could be that you are the first person he has been intimate with since his wife has died so he may be experiencing all kinds of emotions that he didnt know he would feel, guilt for eg. If you don’t hear from him in a day or 2 you could send him an email to let him know how you feel and to hopefully find out what the state of play is. He should at least have the decency to let you know where you stand even if it’s to say he doesn’t want to meet up again. Hope it all works out OK.

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DAYZEMAY Joined: 11th Jun '02

Posted: 14/07/08 12:31 I received attentions from a widower...didn't get to meet him...told me he was going to Nigeria and Egypt and then asked me for the ticket money to come back to the UK. be Careful out there.

ANGELSTAR Joined: 10th Jun '07

Posted: 13/07/08 23:09 I was dating a lovely man, had been widowed 3 years, but he still missed his wife so much. Now I miss him and understand how he felt, he died two months ago and I don't think I will be ready in 10 months. Frienship is one thing. Maybe you can offer him that until he comes to terms with his feelings.

SUNANDSAND Joined: 13th Jul '08

Posted: 13/07/08 17:55 If you were his first date and more so internet date then experienced daters would know,meeting face to face is oh so different than online,perhaps he was not into you face to face and went with the flow,or hes not ready for a relationship even thou hes lonely and sad,yes get in touch but be prepared for it going nowhere,either way once you know,what he wants then you can move on,good luck ...

JOHNSCOT Joined: 27th Mar '02

Posted: 11/07/08 19:25 Ask him directly by email if he wants to see you again or not. I don't know you but its evident that some women on here are on a hard core man hunt (any man will do as long as he's available) This attitude comes across and can be off puting and as others have said ten months isn't long maybe he has mixed emotions.

CLOGAU Joined: 3rd Apr '08

Posted: 14/04/08 15:21 Last edited: 14/04/08 14:27 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful. I'm a widow and have very mixed emotions about dating. 10 months is not long for him - maybe he feels that he's been unfaithful to his wifes memory. Give him a bit more time - he's got lots of feelings to come to terms with.

CAPTAIN Joined: 15th Feb '08

Posted: 11/04/08 20:54 0 out of 2 people found this comment helpful. perhaps he thought you said " who are you " ? and couldn't remember ? it happened to me once !

BUTTERFLY3 Joined: 1st Apr '08

Posted: 10/04/08 01:24 A couple of weeks of being intense can make you think that your closer than you are in reality. Do you know what toothpaste he uses? He may have a good reason for not texting yet, however if he doesn't then two weeks hasn't been the end of the world...even if it feels like it now. It would be great if he contacted you though.

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