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"What is she scared of ?"
Dear Lynn,

Have been friends with someone for about 5 yrs, a while ago I had to tell her how I felt about her,she said she feels the same but is scared and goes in a real bad mood when ever it is mentioned. She is nearly 40 and is stil a virgin which is the problem for her although not for me, how can I turn things round when she wont even talk about it at all,we still get on well and spend friends time together, she says she needs time but that was 6 months ago but its all doing my head in, any ideas because I think she is worth the wait but dunno if I can cope with it being in my head all tha time

 Anon, 39yr old male - Posted: 21/10/2007
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 03/12/07 00:21
Hello. If she is nearly 40 and still a virgin, there is obviously an issue with sex/relationships. Trying to deal with this alone without any outside help could be tricky. She is saying she needs time but as you say it’s already been 6 months, it’s actually been 39 years, so I doubt things will change regardless of the amount of time you give her.

You could either keep the relationship as platonic and get used to the idea of only ever being friends or try to get some help for this problem as a couple. Let her know that you are in this together and you are more than willing to put the time and effort into this relationship if she is.

If she isn’t willing to meet you half way, then maybe you need to revaluate things to see what path you need to take. Relationships take a lot of effort from both sides not just one. Good luck.
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Response from original poster.

Anon, 39 yr old male
Posted: 23/12/07 16:10
thanks,im waiting for the right moment to tell her i know what her problem is,she doesn know that i know and could be tricky to say the least but may make that little bit of difference,i hope anyway
BLITZERASH


Joined: 23rd Dec '07
Posted: 23/12/07 16:10 1 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
Follow your heart and trust your instincts, most of all, make sure she has got enough faith in you to trust you otherwise you stand no chance. =)
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