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"Where did he go ?"
Dear Lynn,

Hi Lyn I met this man at New Years. We had three dates and on the last date we were intimate. I then text him when I get home to say I had a lovley time, he then text me to say the same. That was 4 days ago and I haven't had any contact from him do I text him phone him or just wait for him to contact me. So far he has asked me when can I see you next. Do you think he's playing hard to get or has he lost interest?

 Anon, 38yr old female - Posted: 23/01/2008
Lynn says.. Page: 1
Posted: 07/03/08 19:08
Hi there. If I were you I would wait a few days before contacting him, to see if he contacts you first. If you hear nothing, and you really like this guy, you could send him a text and ask if he would like to meet up for a drink or something. You will then be able to revaluate the situation from the reply you get i.e if he says, “yes, lets meet up” you know that he hasn’t blown cold or if he makes his excuses to not meet, then I think its safe to say that he has. Good luck
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CAMPER2


Joined: 21st Apr '07
Posted: 09/03/08 22:49 0 out of 1 people found this comment helpful.
contact him and ask what his intension's are toward are ? but after 4 day 's i would start looking other fish in the ocean as there is hellova more fish,,, if he was serious he would have rung you the next day
BAMBOO1984

Joined: 9th Mar '08
Posted: 09/03/08 20:16
i think that as you have left it a few days, just drop him a text asking how he is. if he still gives you the cold shoulder, then move on
ELLE9


Joined: 16th Sep '07
Posted: 08/03/08 14:23 3 out of 3 people found this comment helpful.
Hi.. there could be a lot of reasons why he has not been in touch. Give him a quick text or call asking how he is and if he wants to meet, his answer will give you your answer.... good luck
TAMPONMULTI


Joined: 8th Dec '06
Posted: 07/03/08 21:24 2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful.
I sort of agree with lynn on this one, but also you do want to be carfeful he doesn't want to use you for his own sexual pleasure. He may only want to meet up wth you to fulfil his need then not get back in contact again until he is in need again.
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